Neutral Lipsticks for Brown Girls

Neutral colors are always in. You can never go wrong with toned down shades for any occasion. Unfortunately, since we live in a society that caters towards Eurocentric beauty standards on a global scale, it can sometimes feel as if the more nude types of hues look unflattering on people of color. Nude lips are especially tricky because it’s on your face and you can end up looking like a zombie real quick. I know I’ve had my fair share of struggles with finding the right shades for my skin tone. Luckily, after much experience, I’ve been able to decipher the types of undertones and colors that flatter me, and of course I have to share them!

I’m Pakistani and I have a medium/olive skin complexion, but my top neutral liquid lipsticks will for sure work for anyone with a deeper skin tone as well! You can just mix them with a darker lip liner to suit you better!

Note: These are in no particular order, because they’re all great!

1) Kat Von D Everlasting Liquid Lipstick in Double Dare 

  • Seriously, this is my ultimate go-to color. I’ve noticed it appears different on every skin tone, and it looks so good on everyone! On me, it’s a subtle warm toned nude with hints of pink. It’s definitely more on the pricier side of the spectrum, but I cannot even count how many times I use this throughout the day (and how many compliments I get every time I wear it). The formula, finish, and staying power are so on point!

2) Sephora Collection Cream Lip Stain in #13 Marvelous Mauve 

  • I use this liquid lipstick just as much as I use the Kat Von D one. It’s more on the pinky-mauve side. It’s super comfortable to wear and stays on nicely. Such a beautiful color for every day and special occasions.

3) NYX Cosmetics Lip Lingerie in Exotic

  • I’m no makeup expert, but this color reminds me a lot like the Kat Von D one – except at a cheaper price point! I’ve tried other colors from this range by NYX Cosmetics and I found a lot of the other colors washed me out or did not really show up on my lips. This shade, however, is seriously so beautiful and does not make me look lifeless at all! Such a nice, subtle brown, nude shade.

4) Milani Cosmetics Amore Matte Lip Crème in Adore

  • Okay, this liquid lipstick smells like cupcakes so obviously it’s already a winner. Other than the yummy scent, this color and formula is banging! I honestly recommend any shade from this collection, or any other product from Milani. Milani Cosmetics is actually catered towards women of color and is sold at the drugstore – automatic fave.

5) Dose of Colors Matte Liquid Lipstick in Truffle

  • If you’re looking for the perfect light brown nude shade for an olive complexion, look no further! This color is ideal for any occasion and any makeup look you choose to do! It’s so complimentary and acts as the perfect nude for my skin tone (finally).

What are some of your favorite, go-to liquid lipsticks? Share your faves in the comments section below!

“Aren’t You Hot In That?” Is Not A Question

As we approach the warmer months in the Northern Hemisphere, the rising temperatures seem to not only be making people sweat, but also judgmental of what others are wearing. Let me be more specific: these warmer days bring nice vibes, but also truly act as a burden for women.

Growing up I used to wear shirts with short sleeves and even capri pants here and there. As I became older and was more drawn to learning about the meanings behind the teachings in Islam, I made the personal decision to not wear clothes that revealed my arms or legs. It’s funny because out of the twelve months in a year, my modest fashion choices seem to be a real concern for others for about five of those months. As soon as the days start getting to 70°F and up in New York, as a woman, you’re expected to whip out your shorts and knee length dresses. There is nothing wrong with wearing shorts or dresses, but please, don’t try and make me feel like I should be too.

Getting comments such as, “Aren’t you hot in that!?” when I’m wearing a full length cardigan and boyfriend jeans, is extremely unnecessary. Why would you say that to someone anyway? It’s just awkward – how am I supposed to respond? Over the years I’ve noticed that people only relay these types of vapid statements to women and girls. You will never (or rarely) catch anyone saying anything of this nature to a guy. I’ve seen men in full suits when it’s 80°F outside, and absolutely no one questions them about it. It’s fine for them. They don’t need to show their skin. No one expects or has been trained to have entitlement over their bodies or their choices.

“There is nothing wrong with wearing shorts or dresses, but please, don’t try and make me feel like I should be too.”

I’ve thought about this concept a lot. It’s honestly not rocket science to understand. It’s easy to see how women and girls are hyper-sexualized to an insane degree. It starts young and develops and becomes a part of our psyche. The “fashion icons” we idealize and give great importance to in mainstream media, dictate how we perceive women in our everyday lives. We begin to expect all women to look and act a certain way. I will stress this again; there is nothing wrong with women who choose to wear shorts, dresses, or anything else for that matter. There is a real problem however, with how much freedom and agency we have over our own bodies. As soon as people see a woman who is wearing clothes that cover her entire body, it’s as if they see it as an invitation to scrutinize and question her to no end. We don’t have a choice anymore. I don’t want you to look at me. I don’t want you to look at my body. My body is mine, and I choose what to do with it. My personal decisions are mine and I don’t need to provide answers for anyone who really doesn’t know or care about me, but is only asking if I’m “so hot in all those clothes,” because they aren’t used to not seeing a woman’s flesh. You’ve been hypnotized to keep your mind within a tiny box. You primarily see women for their bodies. We are objects to the human eye, no different from automobiles at this point. Regardless of what I wear, I will be objectified and belittled down to what I’m wearing. So, I might as well wear what I want and not be succumbed to the pressure of wearing what will please the people. My purpose is far greater than pleasing people.

This also goes out to all of my sisters who wear the hijab every day. I can’t imagine the incessant nagging they go through during these months (let alone the entire year). This is also for women out there who simply don’t feel comfortable with showing off their body for whatever reason. You do not know what a person is going through or why a person chooses to live their life a certain way. By you exclaiming, “WOW! Aren’t you sweating with all of those clothes on?!” you’re impeding on someone’s personal choice. “Aren’t you hot in that?” is not a question. It is a social indication that if you are a woman who isn’t revealing her body, then you are an “other.” It’s a statement that highlights the ever so present, and undying patriarchal structures that keep us imprisoned in immobile mindsets. ‘Asking’ someone if they’re “hot in that” is not a question at all, but a firm reminder that women are not allowed to be in charge of their own bodies and their own choices.

Leave people the hell alone when it comes to what they wear, it literally does not matter. Why are people so offended by me not showing my skin? Also, newsflash, when it’s 90°F out, everyone is going to be hot. Whether you’re wearing a bikini or a burqa, heat is heat and the sun’s power does not let up just because you’re showing some more skin.

“Why are people so offended by me not showing my skin?”

I wear what I want to wear. I will continue to dress how I want based on my own personal decisions and beliefs. I wear what I want to wear and I do not have to give anyone an explanation about it. Ever.

Spring Makeup: Flower Fairy

Introductions are tricky. I don’t want to basically write out a book about my life, but I don’t want to write too little and immediately lose your interest. So I guess I’ll just simplify things and state who I am and what this post is about; though I believe the title of this post gives it away. Continue reading “Spring Makeup: Flower Fairy”

What’s Haram For Me Is Haram For You

So let’s get one thing straight, WHAT IS HARAM FOR ME IS HARAM FOR YOU. Just because I choose to wear a hijab does not mean that I am held to a different standard than a sister who doesn’t wear a hijab nor am I held to a different standard than a Muslim man. Continue reading “What’s Haram For Me Is Haram For You”